Henry Cavill, the man behind the Man of Steel, is facing backlash over comments he made about dating in the post #MeToo era. Is mild mannered Cavill a misogynist?
“There’s something wonderful about a man chasing a woman,” he said. “There’s a traditional approach to that, which is nice. I think a woman should be wooed and chased, but maybe I’m old-fashioned for thinking that.”
I would think a lot of women would like to be wooed by Cavill.
“It’s very difficult to do that if there are certain rules in place. Because then it’s like: ‘Well, I don’t want to go up and talk to her, because I’m going to be called a rapist or something,” he said. “So you’re like, ‘Forget it, I’m going to call an ex-girlfriend instead, and then just go back to a relationship, which never really worked’. But it’s way safer than casting myself into the fires of hell, because I’m someone in the public eye, and if I go and flirt with someone, then who knows what’s going to happen?”
Seems pretty reasonable. I’m sure he’s rich, and there are plenty of gold diggers.
“Now? Now you really can’t pursue someone further than, ‘No’. It’s like, ‘OK, cool’. But then there’s the, ‘Oh why’d you give up?’ And it’s like, ‘Well, because I didn’t want to go to jail?'” he told the magazine.
Again, makes sense. You can’t tell men no means no, then expect them not to take no for an answer.
When asked if his past behavior ever crossed the line, Cavill offered this response: “I like to think that I’ve never been like that. I think any human being alive today, if someone casts too harsh a light on anything, you could be like, ‘Well, OK, yeah, when you say it like that, maybe.'”
In other words, things are so crazy right now, he’s afraid that, even though he has been good, others will claim otherwise. He probably read about what happened to Aziz Ansari.
He continued: “But it’s such a delicate and careful thing to say because there’s flirting which, for example, in a social environment is in context – and is acceptable. And that has been done to me as well, in return.”
Ansari’s advances were in a social context, and yet he was attacked by someone who had voluntarily come back to his place. So maybe it’s not acceptable any more.
People online feel that Cavill’s comments are tone deaf — and they’re sounding off on Twitter.
People online are idiots. Let’s see if any of the twits have anything useful to say in response to Cavill’s reasonable comments.
Hello [boring and false men are afraid to ask women out since #MeToo rhetoric] my old friend, I’ve come talk with you again — Grace Petrie
Women find handsome, rich actors boring? Not buying it.
This is absurd. If Henry Cavill doesn’t want to be called a rapist then all he has to do is… not rape anyone — Helen Price
Aziz Ansari didn’t rape anyone, yet he was called a rapist. Next.
If you can’t tell the difference between welcome flirting and harassment/assault, you have a big problem — Rachel Molnar
If you want to be flirted with and men can’t tell the difference between women who welcome flirting or will report it as harassment, you have a big problem.
Statement by Henry Cavill: Having seen the reaction to an article in particular about my feelings on dating and the #metoo movement, I just wanted to apologize for any confusion and misunderstanding that this may have created. Insensitivity was absolutely not my intention.
Good statement. Note that he didn’t walk back anything that he said.
This isn’t the first time that the actor has come under fire for comments about relationships. In a 2016 interview with The Sunday Times, Cavill made a joke about “double standards” for catcalling that many people felt was in poor taste.
“I do think there’s a bit of a double standard, you know,” he said. “I mean, if a girl shouts something like ‘Oi, love, fancy a shag?’ to me as I walk past I do sometimes wonder how she’d feel if a builder said that to her. Although, of course, I wouldn’t feel physically threatened, as she might.”
And how is this in poor taste? Seems pretty legit to me.
Keep telling men who point out the consequences of the #metoo movement to shut up and they will stop pointing them out. Don’t expect them to flirt with you as much, or to pursue you when you say no. I have no skin in the game, but if I were young and single, I’d think long and hard about joining the MGTOW movement.