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The second of the archetypes, I call the Queen of Cups. This is not to imply that those who relate to others in the manner of the Queen are all women, or even feminine. Rather, those who emulate this archetypal figure want, above all, for everyone to be happy. Their strong aversion to conflict makes them overly accommodating to the wishes of others. It also makes this a fairly weak archetype.
Those who are queens may have brilliant ideas about how to solve problems, but lack any forcefulness in having others help to realize them. They tend to coddle others and end up doing much of the work themselves. Given enough time, this often leads to them feeling used, and lashing out at those they have, until this point, been nice to. The queen’s ineffective nature leads to poor results, but a queen will seldom criticize others, even when they bear direct responsibility for failure.
I once worked with a man who fit this archetype to a tee. Until I had him figured out, I trusted him to deliver on his commitments. He was given responsibility to plan part of a major project that I bore primary responsibility for. Due to his over-commitment in other areas, I did the work myself and gave him a draft plan to review. At the eleventh hour, when we were presenting to our middle management, he came in with some serious criticisms, none of which were show stopping, which would have been easy to address if he had done his job or even given my work timely feedback.
This same unfortunate soul became the whipping boy of the man we worked for. In the weekly manager’s meeting, our boss woulds raise a new initiative that he wanted worked on. One by one, we would offer to take it on, but would each point out that other work we had committed to would suffer. At last, the boss would ask my accommodating friend whether he could take the work on. The poor man would sheepishly agree to do it, adding it the dozen other things that he had promised to do. He would constantly overwork himself, even to the point of risking his own health.
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